It’s time we had this talk…

It’s time we had this talk…

It is time we had a serious discussion about death in our country. A discussion within our families, with our friends, strangers and churches. It is time to take the  mystery out of death. I find it interesting that in all religious texts that I have read, the act of taking one’s own life, is perhaps, the greatest sin possible. Why is that? Many of us desire at least some amount control over our final days and how we wish to die. We lay great claims to our freedoms in this country – what greater freedom do we have then to end our time, here on earth, on our own terms?

Several groups like Death Café are now gaining popularity as a space to have that conversation. The Death with Dignity movement is strengthening and now making some legislative ground. As of 2016, four states have now created laws regarding physician assisted suicide. However, it is still tightly controlled by legislators, allopathic doctors, and many of the details needed for this to become a reality have yet to be worked out.

Where did this whole concept of “life at all costs” come from? Perhaps it is ultimately from the Hippocratic Oath: First, do no harm. As for the cost of this policy, it comes in all types; financial, physical pain, mental degeneration, not to mention spiritual freedom. Today our veterinarians treat our dying pets better than our doctors are allowed to treat our fellow human beings in the later stages of life and dying. We must start talking about “quality of life” as being more important than “quantity of life”. Even with the best written Advanced Directives such as living wills, the laws are still on the side of keeping you alive at all costs. Harm can indeed mean, keeping someone alive, against their wishes, well past their expiration date.

Here in the USA are starting a great experiment in Oregon and other states with physician assisted suicide for the terminal ill. The restrictions are strict and often not serving the populous that needs it most. Mental competency and less than a six month life span are conditions required for approval. This leaves many dementia patient unable to take this option, even if they had stated being in favor of this option before the dementia took hold. On top of this only a minor percentage of people actually given the drugs and the option, actually chose to use them. We will have to wait and see how this process works, but so far it has not really changed the overall way people die. Even in Oregon, as well as, every other state in the United States, it is unequivocally illegal to take your own life.

There are many ways to end life and as one gets older. There are plants that may help with this. We naturally start to think about dying and how we would like to have it occur. We worry about being the only one who thinks that way, which is why having others to talk with so important. It is okay to think about and talk about death, and the many ways to die. Death is the only natural conclusion to life.

Death Cafe’s are held the 3rd Tuesday of every month from 6 to 8 pm at Asian Healing Arts in the FlexSpace, please come join us for a lively conversation.

Time for Self Care

Yes it is finally time for me to have some self-care.  The class I am taking this weekend is all about self-care and I don’t feel a bit selfish about it.  Of course it does help that there are CEU’s attached to it, and it is the starting point for the next series of instruction that I have been planning on studying; Arvigo Techniques of Maya Abdominal Therapy. For me however, there is something about camping out at a cheap hotel and taking a class in a larger city that has really good food from different countries. Yes, it is all about the food. I had Lebanese food for lunch; Lamb Kabobs, with the best spinach I have tasted in a long time.  I get really bored with the food in our little town, I keep hoping that we just get a flood of Asians moving in and opening restaurants.  Whenever I go away for any length of time, I try to see how many meals I can have.  That is sad, and I also know that I will be working it off for the next month. Good thing a new set of Yoga Classes will be starting soon not to mention the QiGong and Kungfu.

I have overworked myself since moving the office and getting the FlexSpace off the ground.  The Open House was a great success and our first Death Cafe was an incredible discussion which also informed me that my hero Caitlin Doughty was speaking in town last week, I managed to fit that into my schedule too.  I scheduled this class and then thought what am I doing, I must be crazy? I did right. This is just what I needed. Low key, working on only ourselves, lots of anatomy and stuff I already know so no brain bender there. I can drink my tea and contemplate my navel-literally! This class is all about abdominal work. Plus, I get worked on by one of the instructor’s tomorrow morning. Why can’t all classes I take be like this?

I am now hopefully stepping back on the difficult work and working on the things that I like to do. I am happy to help my friends old and new cultivate their ideal classes.  I hope to start bringing in other teachers for things like this that I am attending this weekend, because the FlexSpace is larger than this space and if they can do it, so can I.

Another hopefully fun thing, and certainly no stress, will be starting up this next Friday morning. Tea with Me!  Yes, I am there, in the office having tea. If you want some tea, just want to ask a quick question. Want to actually see the being that writes this stuff.  Just want to see the FlexSpace to see if it might be useful for something you are dreaming to do. Or want to share a favorite story, or a joke stop on by anytime from 9am until I kick you out so I can work on my first client at 10.  Come have a cup.

Hotel with free wifi –oh yeah – okay so I am doing some work as I sit here with my belly full of good food, after a good massage, drinking good tea. But nothing mind boggling or strenuous, more like catching up on some things and tidying up some loose ends without the puppy coming up to me and slobbering all over my keyboard. No birds telling me what they want me to be doing, no dust bunnies letting me know that I should be vacuuming. Just the hum of the way overused and entirely too old air conditioner (and it is February) to keep me company. Time for creative thought and action. I don’t get enough creative time these days, and boy do I need it.

Having the time to relax and be creative is one of the best things that I can give myself for self-care.  I prefer to write in the mountains but any room to myself will work, as long as the tea kettle is here.  Did you know that is some countries menstruating women take time away from responsibilities to enjoy creative endeavors? I learned that today in class. I think we all need a break from life every now and again to just do something creative.  Something that gives joy to you.  If you cannot find the joy in your own life, it is really difficult to be joyful with others.  Once you have joy it is natural to want to spread it around.  Joy that is spread around, seems like an awfully good idea to me.

Play games, walk in the park, rent a canoe and paddle around, make music. Paint, read, write, sew, or plant something. There are so many things that are creative or can be creatively done that it seems like endless possibilities.  Bring joy into your life, give that gift to yourself.  You will not regret it.

Sleep is also important, and some of that I need to get right now. I hope you do something for yourself this weekend, something that lets you know that you care for you. Lunch tomorrow will be with one of my dearest oldest NC friend, we have the same tastes so it should be good, I can’t wait.

So much to do, or the Mad Hatter

Ever feel overwhelmed, too much on your plate, all the balls are in the air and all you want to do is sleep? Yeah, me too.

I threw a party and people showed up…. that is an introverts nightmare… It was great, I met a lot of very nice people and got a lot of names, emails, suggestions and requests. The open house did everything it was meant to do. By all accounts is was a total success. However, now there is a pile of papers, on my desk a list of to-dos as long as my arm and all I want to do is sleep.

What do I do? Well I did sleep a lot, then had insomnia for 3 days because I over worried about sleeping to much and not getting to things which not surprisingly, made me struggle with brain power to do the things. 11 days have passed and I am starting to see the end of that pile and list. Truth is, I needed some of that time to figure out how to do the things, that I had not only committed too, but also what you’al had suggested to me. I realized an entire revamp of my website was needed to handle things. Even though I was smart enough to set up a separate email for the FlexSpace (and yes, now I have realized that FlexSpace needs to be one word) however did not realize the mechanics I am now having to learn to use the email at it’s fullest, not to mention the website.

Add on to all the stuff for my personal business, Bassoon Camp is now is full preparations mode and there is a lot to be done for that group. The puppy is really in need of hands on training and my oven after years of struggling finally bit the dust and I had to kick it to the curb. Then the computer and credit card acceptance had to be updated too…uuuugggghhhh

Stressors are a normal part of life, and they do seem to add up really fast. There are so many hats we must wear to just make it through a week. Vit. D, C, and some walking has done wonders, I even got to a yoga class this morning. We all go through these cycles and now I am about to tackle the final papers… then get on to the job of doing my taxes.

The website is now totally revamped. Take a look and send me any comments, or spelling errors, it is always helpful to have other eyes. I am on to all the contact lists and will have them to teachers shortly. I hope all of you will be able to take advantage on one or more of the classes coming up. We also had an overwhelming response to the Death Cafe we are running this weekend so I am confident there will be more of them on the calendar soon. If there is anything you are interested in teaching just let me know and we can talk about the ways to do it and help our community.

Thanks to all of you for your patents. And for those who wanted a newsletter… yeah, I just don’t see that happening. I think that this blog will have to nourish that need of yours, and you can even RSS if you need it coming to your inbox 🙂 or see it pop on your Facebook feed.

So that is all for now – look for class announcements soon.

Thank you

Thank you all for making the open house feel like a grand success last weekend. It took me a few days to recover and clean up. I have lots of sign up sheets to go through and a newsletter to put together, that is something I never thought I would be doing.

I hope that many of you who did not make it will look at the Flex Space calendar and join us for classes. Also feel free to suggest classes that you might be interested in either taking or teaching. I will be busy with the details for the 1st Death Cafe coming up in a few weeks. As well as a class I will be taking, the start of learning some deep abdomen work to help with falling bladders, prolapsing uterus’ and other internal disorders, the things we all have to deal with as we get older.

The Bassoon Camp I help run is also in full swing right now which takes up a bunch of my time. I am looking forward to Virginia’s WordPress web classes to help me learn more about how to make both of these websites pop and work for me instead of me working so much on them.

If I thought I would be taking it easy at home that is just silly. Between the puppy who will be having surgery on her knees in a few months and all the birds, I will be running just as busy at home as I am in the office. So from my chair, I am saying once again, thank you for all of your love and support. It is because of you that this open house was such a success. Now I can only move forward to creating the space to help you and others heal from the outside in and the inside out.

Maria

OPEN HOUSE

Yes, the move has happened. It was faster than expected and there are still some things and tweaks that need to be done. Believe it or not, the first classes have already been started in the Flex Space and more are coming soon. Please check the Calendar under the menu tab that says: Classes.

The snow slowed a few classes down by a week so get involved now.  This week there is a KungFu meetup, a (yin) or easy Yoga class and a QiGong class all starting up.

 

OPEN HOUSE

Saturday, February 4, 2017

From 12pm until 5pm

1520 Martin Street Ste#201 off of Silas Creek Parkway near FTCC

The new space can be walked or rolled into from the back of the building, just park along the side of the building and use the back entrance.

Come and find out more information on classes being held and Maria’s bodywork work practice.

Are you interested in Chinese medicine but afraid of the needles? This may be your answer.

What is a FLEX Space? Come and see, maybe you have a need for some space for a meeting or a class.

Classes are being held for all types of people to increase your control over your own health. The will include a variety of things like; Death Café to herbal and other informational talks, computer classes, Yoga, Tai Chi, Qi Gong, and so much more.

We will also expect to have art, games, demos, tea, coffee, and CAKE!

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