Time for Self Care

Yes it is finally time for me to have some self-care.  The class I am taking this weekend is all about self-care and I don’t feel a bit selfish about it.  Of course it does help that there are CEU’s attached to it, and it is the starting point for the next series of instruction that I have been planning on studying; Arvigo Techniques of Maya Abdominal Therapy. For me however, there is something about camping out at a cheap hotel and taking a class in a larger city that has really good food from different countries. Yes, it is all about the food. I had Lebanese food for lunch; Lamb Kabobs, with the best spinach I have tasted in a long time.  I get really bored with the food in our little town, I keep hoping that we just get a flood of Asians moving in and opening restaurants.  Whenever I go away for any length of time, I try to see how many meals I can have.  That is sad, and I also know that I will be working it off for the next month. Good thing a new set of Yoga Classes will be starting soon not to mention the QiGong and Kungfu.

I have overworked myself since moving the office and getting the FlexSpace off the ground.  The Open House was a great success and our first Death Cafe was an incredible discussion which also informed me that my hero Caitlin Doughty was speaking in town last week, I managed to fit that into my schedule too.  I scheduled this class and then thought what am I doing, I must be crazy? I did right. This is just what I needed. Low key, working on only ourselves, lots of anatomy and stuff I already know so no brain bender there. I can drink my tea and contemplate my navel-literally! This class is all about abdominal work. Plus, I get worked on by one of the instructor’s tomorrow morning. Why can’t all classes I take be like this?

I am now hopefully stepping back on the difficult work and working on the things that I like to do. I am happy to help my friends old and new cultivate their ideal classes.  I hope to start bringing in other teachers for things like this that I am attending this weekend, because the FlexSpace is larger than this space and if they can do it, so can I.

Another hopefully fun thing, and certainly no stress, will be starting up this next Friday morning. Tea with Me!  Yes, I am there, in the office having tea. If you want some tea, just want to ask a quick question. Want to actually see the being that writes this stuff.  Just want to see the FlexSpace to see if it might be useful for something you are dreaming to do. Or want to share a favorite story, or a joke stop on by anytime from 9am until I kick you out so I can work on my first client at 10.  Come have a cup.

Hotel with free wifi –oh yeah – okay so I am doing some work as I sit here with my belly full of good food, after a good massage, drinking good tea. But nothing mind boggling or strenuous, more like catching up on some things and tidying up some loose ends without the puppy coming up to me and slobbering all over my keyboard. No birds telling me what they want me to be doing, no dust bunnies letting me know that I should be vacuuming. Just the hum of the way overused and entirely too old air conditioner (and it is February) to keep me company. Time for creative thought and action. I don’t get enough creative time these days, and boy do I need it.

Having the time to relax and be creative is one of the best things that I can give myself for self-care.  I prefer to write in the mountains but any room to myself will work, as long as the tea kettle is here.  Did you know that is some countries menstruating women take time away from responsibilities to enjoy creative endeavors? I learned that today in class. I think we all need a break from life every now and again to just do something creative.  Something that gives joy to you.  If you cannot find the joy in your own life, it is really difficult to be joyful with others.  Once you have joy it is natural to want to spread it around.  Joy that is spread around, seems like an awfully good idea to me.

Play games, walk in the park, rent a canoe and paddle around, make music. Paint, read, write, sew, or plant something. There are so many things that are creative or can be creatively done that it seems like endless possibilities.  Bring joy into your life, give that gift to yourself.  You will not regret it.

Sleep is also important, and some of that I need to get right now. I hope you do something for yourself this weekend, something that lets you know that you care for you. Lunch tomorrow will be with one of my dearest oldest NC friend, we have the same tastes so it should be good, I can’t wait.

Doing the Work

This is a phrase that is often bantered around by those who do energetic work on the level where they are helping other humans move forward in/on their personal paths of destiny (in Chinese: Ming). I can put all the pieces out on the table for them to pick up. Sometimes I can even place a piece for them, but it is up to that individual to stand up organize and use that gift, information, puzzle piece…whatever. That is the work that they must do.
Enlightenment is real, it just usually happens in steps, not like the Buddha under a tree or Christ in the desert. Most of us have to work to pay the rent, living in a world that does not let us have time to do deep meditation for years at a time. We move along the path with great effort in what can only be seen as an expression of the ‘bunny hop’ dance we learned as children. Life is full of three leaps forward and one or two leaps back. Imbalance happens when we are taking more steps backwards than forwards or get too frightened to take any step.
When I set someone on their Ming and give them a little kick on the butt to get them going I tend to have an idea of where they are headed but there is no real way for me to know what their path will look like. I know when they are going to have to go through a tough time of it and I will have to handhold and be encouraging. Other times it is going be a great opening up and they will reveal in the high… until reality hits them hard upside the head and I have to explain with a smile that yep, we still have to figure out how to survive on this dimension too.
People are often seen by others that they have shared life thus far with them as ‘different’ when they make big steps forward and breakthroughs within their past energetic ties. How you move through that and move forward will set your new path. It is not always easy. Old friends are often seen as ‘falling away’ from you or not ‘knowing how to relate’ to you anymore. This is normal as the energetically patterns you once shared with them may no longer mesh in the way that was comfortable to them, and the old way of meshing is no longer comfortable to you. As we move and grow through our lives physically, energetically, emotionally and spiritually those who no longer resonate with us fall to the wayside. Mourning that loss is healthy and fine, and the fear of moving forward and finding those who now resonate with you is also normal, yet neither should paralyze you from your forward movement. It is just the new “is”. Have you ever heard someone going through a relationship break up that says, “You know; I still love jim/jill but we have just grown apart” and that is exactly what it is. Feel the sadness, move through it, but it is just a growing apart and you will continue to grow and just may grow together with someone who now mirrors your path more successfully (for now…) it IS what IS now, and that is just perfect.
Now just in case you think that this only works one way; that these things only work as we like to think of it, as ascending the spiral stair case of enlightenment – think again! The other way is much more common and fair easier. We all know someone who has taken the spiral path downward, toward a hard crashing bottom. IF per se you were getting into a heavy drug habit, you would also loose certain people around you and you would gain new ‘friends’ who do drugs and resonate with that lifestyle. We are all beings that resonate and like attracts like. The law of attraction: one of those basic laws of physics that you must obey.
How then do you know if you are just sick of your friends, or if you are really making a step forward?
Have you turned inward and become more reflective on life? This is a normal reaction to have calm after the removal or letting go of any big that overshadowed your life. It can take some time for the body and mind to incorporate what has happened and learn from it. It is natural to take a retreat to reset.
What is your passion? Is it blossoming? Are you making a breakthrough in your art? Are you experience a new flow in your life? Do you see things more vividly? Are you noticing things that you never paid attention to and wondering what they mean? Everything is shifting on multiple levels and all levels by nature must stay in balance with each other. If we move forward on say the psychic level why would we remain stagnate on the physical or any other level?
You may start seeing things a funny now… instead of being bitchy and annoyed by the guy who should know better. Or become bemused by the lack of acceptance of life in yourself or others. Anger transforms into joy easier and sorrow is kept in better check. These are signs of advanced sight or understanding of the mundane world: The humans are funny. They are here for our amusement! Enjoy life!

Getting Started

Getting started here.
I believe there comes a time when we all must reinvent ourselves. I have been in that process over the last year. This blog will be attached to my new web site and be an outlet and hopefully something that can at least amuse a few people if not give them some valuable information from time to time.

I have over 20 years of experience in the fields of massage and bodywork therapy. My specialty is in Asian Bodywork Therapy form of TuiNa. I have served on state and national boards over my time, taught and treated hundreds of people.

In Chinese Medicine we are taught to treat from pre-conception to post-mortem and everything in between.   I hope to help many through their path in life.